Heya friends. How are you guys? I hope you're all doing well. I'm doing okay, just sort of weird along the health lines. So many nosebleeds these days and I find myself picking at my forehead more often, so I have lots of cuts on my forehead and it's looking almost embarassing. Anywho, all is alright on my end aside from that. Tell me about how you guys are doing.
Anyways, I was browsing Tumblr the other night and I cam across a little post that was about shipping two characters. No big deal right? Well, it kind of was a big deal to me. Why? Because it was between two characters who shared a friendly conversation just for a minute for the first time in an episode and now suddenly everyone is romantically pairing them. I'm not gonna name names for the sake of not getting anyone butthurt like my 100th episode journal that I'm still recovering from and sorting out the hate notes.
The point is, I was a tad confused as to why everyone was romantically shipping these two characters who obviously had a very nice friend dynamic. Then I realized- that's technically how every single ship is starting nowadays. When a character merely smiles at another in a show these days, suddenly a bunch of shippers burst out of the snow like daisies. Heck, sometimes there doesn't even have to be a word of dialogue exchanged to ship someone! Usually known as "crack ships", these are the relationships people freak out over due to maybe wanting to see how these characters interract or maybe they even just like the idea of their designs being side by side. However, they never draw them in friend pictures- they tend to skip straight to the romance shipping! Why?
Well being in many fandoms such as Gravity Falls, Steven Universe, My Little Pony, The Legend of Korra and more, I've come across some pretty strange and random stuff. And what does it matter? They are crack ships. Let it be. Let them have fun. My main beef is whenever two characters so clearly have a simple friendship going on or are only starting a friendship and suddenly everyone skips to romance.
Is this bad?
Well yes and no. On the good hand, it's amazing to see two characters be drawn finding such love and comfort with one another. Plus it's unique sometimes to see them with someone out fo the norm or what is expected from the rest of the fandom. However on the other hand, it sort of downgrades the idea of, well, friendship in general which is also such a beautiful thing.
We so often ship characters that we forget to create the building blocks that lead to that relationship. Isn't friendship just as beautiful as romance? In fact, in my opinion it is even better. And no I am not saying that because I am asexual, in fact I am biromantic, but just hate the idea of having sexual contact with any sex. The reason I say that friendship is more beautiful than romance is because you have someone there for you who isn't there for kisses and waking up to them by your side or starting a family and growing old together, but you have someone there solely because they adore being in your company. They are the ones there for you when that special someone leaves you in the dust. Friends are amazing because they love you just as much as the significant other, but it's no romantic- it's solely because they cherish the person you are.
Now does that mean that we should stop this sudden shipping? Not at all. In fact, some non-cannon ships are highly warranted due to how much has truly happened between certain characters. You can ship anyone in the Mane 6 together because, well, they've all done so much together. But to ship Fluttershy and Big Macintosh is a head scratcher in my opinion, they have almost never shared a single line of dialogue until that weird Flutterguy episode happened. Does that mean it's bad to ship Fluttermac? Not necessarily, but I just wish I at least see people drawing them in comics that build their friendship, or make them comedically interract, or something other than just skipping to sucking face.
Pearl and Amethyst from Steven Universe has so many shippers and it's definitely warranted, they've had so many moments together and their friendship is so close to going to the next level that it would be believable if they ended up together. But people romantically shipping Dipper and Pacifica from Gravity Falls solely because of that one conversation they had in the Northwest Mystery episode? I dunno, wouldn't it be nicer to see them have more kind moments in drawings that then lead to being boyfriend and girlfriend? Draw Dipper giving a bandaid to Pacifica after that episode because now you know he's there for her, not immediately draw them making out in their parent's huge closet.
There is beauty in friendship, everyone. Why, I myself hold friendship higher than anything. I can;t tell you how many times I've wanted to just hold my friend's hands when they were sad, to just lay back with them and be silent, to spend more nights of laughter with them out of school, to share moments, etc. In fact, back in school one time on a field trip, this girl I met on the four day trip and I really hit it off and became good friends. On the bus ride back, she was so sleepy and asked if she could lean against me. I said "Hella yeah" and she did with no problem. It wasn't romantic, it was just a little tenderness from a friend. But that's what society lacks now:
Not to sound like an old crone, but I hate to admit this: we've become a very sexual society. Now now, I'm not going to blame Nicki Minaj's music or twerking or any of that. Hell, I'm from Miami, if anything blame me. What I mean is, though I don't know the source, we've become so hypersexual and insecure about our feelings and sexuality that even holding hands in public these days with anyone immediately makes someone go "ugh, go get a room" or even say "omg, those two are so in a relationship." Hell, I've heard some jackasses say "no homo" before eating a banana. What, am I gonna ship you with a fruit? The worse example was when I was watching "Stand By Me" in class around the last week of school and as you know, the boys in that movie are awesome friends. But there was a point in the movie where a boy cried on the other one's shoulder and you know what I heard?
"Man, everyone was a faggot back then, or whuh?" I personally wanted to detach the desk from my chair and make that jackass be shipped by my desk. But I digress.
That mindset, that you can't even say "I love you" to a friend without it being romantic, leaks into our art, shows, and our own lives. And I think it needs to stop. We need to go back to romanticizing love. Not everything is sexual. Not everything has to lead to being in a serious relationship. Treasure the idea of friendship because it's just so amazing. Not to say stop crack shipping or normal shipping. Heck, even I crack ship Lapis and Peridot from Steven Universe, Huan and Desna from The Legend of Korra, and so forth.
I'm just saying- Remember that friendship exists and that it's awesome. Alright, loves?